Do you remember how great it was when you first fell in love? It felt so good to know that the beautiful lady you fell in love with loved you in return! The beginning of a relationship is wonderful with all the chemistry flowing and those “feel good” hormones racing through our bodies. Eventually, though, we make it past the honeymoon phase in a relationship. You might find yourself wondering what happened to the lady you married? I know you want to make her happy, but are you having trouble figuring out how?
In a long term relationship or marriage, we have times when we are more or less in love with our partner. In order to have an unstoppable relationship, we need to keep the love alive and not let it take a back seat in our everyday routine. So let’s talk about how to get the romance back into your relationship and keep her falling in love with you over and over again!
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Make her a priority
Women are fundamentally insecure about your love for them. I know this makes no sense, and she would change it if she could. So now that you know this, what do you do? Women thrive on attention from you. They need to know you love them and would choose them again. Remember the things you did to win her love in the first place? Go back to doing those things; continue to date her. Let her know she is a priority in your life and that you think she is wonderful and you love her. Spend time with her doing things you both like to do. Go out on a date, go for a walk, watch TV snuggling together. Women are different from men when it comes to priorities. If you don’t know what is important to her, just ask! -
Listen to her
Give her your undivided attention for a period of time and listen to her. Women like to connect with you after being apart all day so join her in the kitchen during dinner preparation and give her a hug and kiss and tell her you are happy to see her. Then ask her about her day. This will let her know she is important to you. Remember that women are different from you. So listen without always trying to fix things. If something is broken, by all means fix it! When in doubt you can always ask if there is anything you can do. Chances are just listening is enough. She wants to feel heard and know that you care. -
Do something for her
Do something nice for her. Maybe help her with something around the house or encourage her to take some time for herself. Surprise her with dinner out at her favorite restaurant or make her breakfast on the weekend. Again, women are different. It is important to find out what makes her feel special. Maybe she prefers a text from you during the day telling her how much you love her. Small things will mean a lot to her if done with love. -
Intimacy
Intimacy and love are essential to an unstoppable relationship. The important thing to know about women is that intimacy starts in her heart. She needs to feel wanted and beautiful. When it comes to her being in the mood for intimacy, you need to start earlier in the day. Start with an extra long kiss in the morning. She needs physical contact with you, but make sure you are touching her at times when sex is not the immediate goal. So, hold her hand, hug her, snuggle, and kiss her often. Have fun with this and flirt like you did when you were dating. Send texts during the day that are playful and sometimes sexy. Let her know how much you love her and want her.
There is nothing like the feeling of being in love and being loved. It does take some work in a relationship to keep that feeling alive, but it can be done, and it is so worth the effort. I want you to get up every morning feeling happy to be sharing your life with such a wonderful lady. The more you let her know how much you love her, the more she will appreciate and love you!
Lori Ann Davis, MA
Relationship Specialist