We all have a constant companion that never shuts up. The mental chatter in our heads starts when we wake up and is still going when we go to sleep. It’s even active during our dreams.
Unfortunately, this never-ending stream of thought can be damaging over time.
Fortunately, with understanding and objectivity, the impact of mental chatter can be mitigated.
If you’re willing to take control and keep your thoughts positive, mental chatter even be helpful.
There are several tactics that you can use to manage your mental chatter:
Recognize that brains make noise. Brains generate thoughts the way dogs bark. It’s just what they do. While your brain can be taught to quiet down to an extent, there’s no way to silence it completely while you’re still breathing.
- Accept that the nature of your brain is to make noise that only you can hear. That doesn’t mean you have to allow it to control you or affect you.
Maintain some distance from your mental chatter. Since you know that your brain is going to generate thoughts regardless of the situation, it’s important to realize that you don’t have to engage with those thoughts.
- Just allow your mental chatter to pass on by. Avoid grabbing onto any of those stray thoughts and running with them. Just let them go.
Meditate daily. Meditation shows you just how noisy your mind can be. It also allows you to practice bringing your mind back to a point of focus. You learn a lot about how your mind works when you meditate. This doesn’t have to be a specific type of mediation. Simply sitting and noticing your breathing, getting in touch with your body, or with nature is all you need. A few minutes a day can make a big difference.
Use affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to counteract negative mental chatter. You can’t think about two things at the same time. When any negative thoughts appear, recite your affirmations to yourself.
- You’ll not only feel a positive boost from the affirmations, but you’ll also avoid the impact of your negative self-talk.
Listen to the chatter. Sometimes, the chatter is trying to tell you something important. Consider if there’s a worthwhile message your subconscious is trying to tell you.
- Maybe your mind is nagging you about remembering to pick up your child after school. Setting an alarm on your phone might be one way to silence the noise.
Avoid judging. A good portion of the noise in our head is created by our constant need to judge everyone and everything.
- Imagine it’s hot outside. It’s okay to just acknowledge that it’s hot. Just allow it to be hot without deciding that it’s good, bad, or requires your additional commentary.
- Avoid the urge to judge people, places, things, and situations. As an added bonus, the less you judge, the less you’ll worry about being judged by others.
Journal. Sometimes it helps to just let it all out. Set aside 10-20 minutes each day and allow your mind to run wild. Write it all down. You’ll be stunned by how varied and nonsensical your thoughts are. It’s also possible to find something worthwhile on occasion, too.
Mental chatter is one of the results of having a normal brain. Brains make noise, and they never stop for long. It takes some effort to slow down this mental chatter and to become aware of the talk so you can release and change the thoughts that are not serving you.
When you make an effort to think positive thoughts, then your mental chatter is working for you rather than against you.
I have some great tools for helping you change negative self-talk. I love using EFT and Psych-K with my clients. If you are interested in exploring any of these techniques or want help coming up with an individual plan to eliminate your self-sabotaging thoughts, reach out and schedule a time to talk.
Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS
Certified Relationship Specialist
www.LoriAnnDavis.com