At our core, we all have a predominate energy that is either masculine or feminine. Generally, women have feminine core energy and men have masculine core energy. This energy plays a major role in our lives and our relationships. Today we are going to talk about what it means to have masculine and feminine energy and why it is important.
Masculine energy is all about action, giving, decision- making, and problem solving. Masculine energy is action and assertiveness.
Feminine energy is more about being, feeling, receiving, vulnerability, and openness. Feminine energy is more about being in the moment instead of doing.
In day-to-day life, men and women act in both masculine and feminine ways. We all have both energies inside us and need to utilize both to function in life. However, our masculine and feminine energy play an important role in our relationships as well. Understanding how we use this energy is one of the key factors in making a relationship successful. It is this difference in energy that causes the attraction between men and women in relationships.
Men generally have at their core masculine energy, and that same energy is generally what they use a lot of at work. When they come home, they can stay in that energy in their relationship. It might need to look a little different when you are interacting with their partner, but the core energy will be the same. Women, on the other hand, spend a great deal of time functioning in masculine energy. It is part of the role we now play in society and is just part of our lives. We get into a habit of acting in masculine energy, and we forget how to be feminine. We forget that to be feminine is our true nature, and it is ok to act feminine and be feminine and still be successful in the outside world. When we are dating or with our partner, it is important to tap into the feminine.
When my husband first moved in with us, I had been a single mom for a couple of years. I noticed myself being too quick to handle things myself and not allow him to help me. It was time for me to give over some of that to the guy in my life. I love accomplishing things, but it is exhausting without balance. I love being around masculine energy because then I tap into my feminine energy, and I feel “at home.” I relax and can just be and receive. It rejuvenates me! It also creates great passion in my relationship.
No one has to tell you how to be feminine. You already are inside. It is a matter of tapping into this energy and finding what works for you. Each woman will have her own version. The key is to find what works for you. What do you need to do to feel more feminine? For men, what do you need to do to act as the masculine man that you are?
Both men and women, I believe, have gotten lost in today’s society. Women complain that the men don’t take enough of the lead in the relationship and men are confused by what women really want. It is important for women to give up some control and stop managing, and over-giving in relationships. It is important to remember femininity is vulnerable but not weak, and it takes courage to be vulnerable. There is a balance women need to find between doing and being.
Surrendering to masculine energy encourages our guys to be more masculine and to do for us. This is their true nature. We can do this while still being confident and strong on the inside. As a matter of fact, that confidence and strength is very attractive to men. Being in feminine energy will make him feel closer to you and make you more attractive to him. It will also increase the desire and passion in your relationship. Can you see how important this is in dating and maintaining a loving, passionate relationship?
Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS
Certified Relationship Specialist